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April 5, 2013

Boomer Talk: The Dating Game

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Aside from the possibility of renewing physical touch, there are other reasons to put yourself out there, hoping to meet a mate, or at least try a date. Companionship seems to be a strong argument for conducting an active mate search.

Of course, many find substitutes for company by developing important relationships with their beloved animals. While it is true there are far few complications and little drama with an affectionate cat or a loyal dog, there is still a definite advantage in having a good friend who is human and available to accompany you, sharing time and interests, someone you can lean on little. Having a partner can bring more emotional (and sometimes financial) security.

Being intimately connected to another may give a sense of belonging, knowing you are of primary importance to them; therefore, they are in your corner as a support, and more.

Is it idealistic to have these desires at our advancing age? Like any other game you want to win, dating does have its perils and sometimes bad, regrettable choices are made. Still it is good to recall that old adage, “No pain, no gain” when moving through this dating process.

So how do you find a soul mate?

It is often suggested to set the intention of what you are hoping for, write it down and think about it (but don’t let your desire consume you). If fate is on your side you could meet your future mate anywhere, like at the supermarket, especially if you are an extrovert and can easily strike up a conversation with someone you find attractive. Or, you can meet someone of worth at a bar, a place where many available singles can be found. You can definitely meet someone online, but be wary of the “game players” who are in it for unsavory reasons.

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