We all hunger deep down for a successful loving connection to others, and many people suffer terribly because their core relationship does not work well. And they suffer further because they really don’t know why their relationships don’t work.
The billionaire J.Paul Getty captured this sentiment well when he said: “I hate to be a failure. I hate and regret the failure of my marriages. I would gladly give all my millions for just one lasting marital success.”
Mr. Getty could have spent a lot less than all his millions to do the work he needed to do to gather the self-knowledge needed make a successful marriage.
In my next column, we’ll consider some of the things that we need to see and understand to make sure that our core relationship goes well. There is an art and a science you can use to make a successful marriage or other long-term relationship. They should be, and could be, widely known, but, unfortunately, they are not.
Dr. Jim Manganiello is a clinical psychologist and diplomate-level medical psychotherapist based in Groveland and West Boxford. He is also an author and teacher focusing on stress, personal growth, meditation and “inner fitness.” His book “Unshakable Certainty” is available on Amazon. Email him at firstname.lastname@example.org or visit www.drjimmanganiello.com.