All of the above suggestions assume that parents are taking into account the age of their children. Very young children should not be abandoned at homework time! It is all about the process of helping kids gain independence and self-reliance gradually over time. If the homework wars can be circumvented before they start, children are more likely to develop the independent study skills needed for the later grades by experiencing increased levels of personal responsibility across the earlier grades.
Parents will also experience increased levels of sanity — a win-win!
Lori Day is an educational psychologist, consultant and parenting coach with Lori Day Consulting in Newburyport. Her first book, titled “Her Next Chapter: How Mother-Daughter Book Clubs Can Help Girls Navigate Malicious Media, Risky Relationships, Girl Gossip, and So Much More,” will be published in May 2014.