But what about someone living with neglect and abuse? Can we agree that this is simply not acceptable? It is a fact that too many people stay in abusive and sometimes dangerous relationships, or accept the other person’s occasional, or ongoing, hurtful treatment. Abuse may be verbal, economic, physical or sexual. None of it is acceptable. Acceptance of bad behavior is unhealthy and unwise.
It is so easy to make excuses for someone you love: “Well, they’re not always bad to me and they apologize later.” “I think they are changing, or at least they say they want to change.”“I can tolerate anything as long as I’m not left alone.” And then there are those marriages that cannot be saved, even after repeatedly trying to make it right. It is then that we may be forced to accept that final separation is called for. Letting go is so difficult for some.
Coming to terms with the end of what was once a loving relationship may call for more clarity and great fortitude. Staying away from blame helps to accept the situation as it is and move on.
With yoga we strive for “santosha,” contentment leading to peace of mind, which is the one thing each of us wants and needs for health and longevity.
Angelena Craig of Newburyport is the director of The New Aging Movement and a professional-level yoga instructor. Visit her website at www.thenewagingmovement.com or e-mail firstname.lastname@example.org.