We didn’t come here to be confused, age, get ill and then die. The painful crush of life drives many of us to close up and become hardened. The exit from misery and the opening of our deepest possibilities often comes by facing our pain and confusion with friendship and generosity.
Often times we need to recover what the Dalai Lama refers to as the “gift of tears.” To connect to our pain and weep, instead of holding it in and shutting down, grants great relief. It’s like a profound psychological sneeze. Facing ourselves with a tender heart opens up opportunities for a fresh view. And for more positive self-talk sourced from love, humor and wisdom.
Dr. Jim Manganiello is a clinical psychologist and diplomate-level medical psychotherapist based in Groveland and West Boxford. He is also an author and teacher focusing on stress, personal growth, meditation and “inner fitness.” His book “Unshakable Certainty” is available on Amazon. Email him at firstname.lastname@example.org or visit www.drjimmanganiello.com.