Although her husband still considers himself a Catholic, he has been very supportive of her spiritual journey.
“He is open to seeing things on my side of the fence,” she said.
Their son, who is now 15, has been raised in both traditions.
“For him, it is a way of life,” D’Onofrio said. “It’s not about what I say, but mostly about how we live. He has cultivated it in his own way.”
At home, the D’Onofrios recycle, compost and garden, all of which are important to Deborah’s spiritual practice.
“For us, it’s casual,” she said.
D’Onofrio thinks that her beliefs have helped Niko develop a strong respect for women.
“He really understands things that other 15-year-old boys might not,” she said.
Likewise, she believes that witchcraft can have an especially strong pull for women, although many men practice the religion, as well.
“Most women have a cultural idea of what we are supposed to be,” she said. “Women aim to please, rather than aiming to be true to themselves. We need to not be what we’re told, but let out our wild, wise and sovereign natures.”
Witchcraft also appeals to people who are looking to get in touch with the earth, something that is becoming increasingly important in many families.
“More and more people want to connect,” she said. “People can’t deny that the earth around us is changing, and they’re thinking about how they can benefit the earth. They are awakening to the fact that we are not two-dimensional. We are spiritual, as well. The consciousness is being raised.”
Although she has been studying witchcraft for more than a decade, the more that D’Onofrio knows about the practice, the more she craves to learn.
“When you’re passionate about something you can’t contain in one lifetime everything you could like to learn,” she said. “I show up every day with my learning cap on.”