I’ve worked with many people who fall into this category. They try to reason that great financial success and recognition will conquer their doubt, uncertainty and dissatisfaction. They place huge bets that achieving wealth and power will free them from confusion, disappointment and unhappiness.
They expect that money and power will bring a life of relaxed ease and deep satisfaction.
Our culture tends to reward this kind of effort to medicate fear and self-doubt by seeking certainty outside of oneself. It doesn’t matter how you get to rich and powerful, as long as you get to rich and powerful. But as Lily Tomlin told us — even if we win the rat race — we’re still a rat.
Big-time outside success always markets and promotes itself as a great antidote for our self-doubt and insecurity — but it never turns out to be that. It’s not a good remedy for the problem of being disconnected from who we truly are.
Dr. Jim Manganiello is a clinical psychologist and diplomate-level medical psychotherapist based in Groveland and West Boxford. He is also an author and teacher focusing on stress, personal growth, meditation and “inner fitness.” His book “Unshakable Certainty” is available on Amazon. Email him at email@example.com or visit www.drjimmanganiello.com.