, Newburyport, MA

June 20, 2013

Parmelia 'Pat' Stoughton Willard de Winter, 80

Boxford — Parmelia "Pat" Stoughton Willard de Winter passed away June 15, at Brigham and Women’s Hospital after a short illness. Born in Hartford, Conn., on November 23, 1932, she was the daughter of the late Howard A. Willard and Virginia McCray Miller Willard. Pat, or Patsy as she was known then, was raised in Wethersfield and West Hartford. She was predeceased by her twin brother, Palmer Southworth Willard, her youngest brother William Leslie Willard and her older brother, John Bleveny Willard.

Pat was a 1954 graduate of Middlebury College and received a fellowship to the Harvard Graduate School of Education, where she earned a masters in education in 1955. She then taught elementary school in Lynnfield, Mass. After facing challenges when her youngest daughter was born hearing impaired, she was inspired to get further schooling and received her certification in moderate special needs from Boston University and Leslie College. She was a special needs teacher in Boxford and Georgetown, and was a favorite of many at Penn Brook Elementary School in Georgetown, retiring in 1999.

A member of the First Church Congregational in Boxford for decades, she served in many capacities there including chairman of the Board of Deacons; church moderator; chair of the Church Council; Nominating Committee member; Vacation Bible School teacher, and Sunday School teacher. Pat was a dynamic force and had boundless energy to help out anyone who needed her support. She was an avid gardener and member of the Boxford Village Garden Club, as well as an accomplished artist and crafter. She was an early morning regular at the pool of the Atlantis Sports Club in Danvers, and taught crafts to the Boxford Great Group. Pat was active in the Boxford Historical Society for many years and Friends of the Boxford Libraries.

She is survived by two sisters, Virginia W. Baer of Wethersfield, Conn., and Martha W. de Richmont of London, and a brother, Howard A. Willard Jr. of Wethersfield. She leaves behind three daughters, Carol de Winter Pelletier (Jason) of Rowley, Mass., Lisa de Winter Cirinna of Danvers, Mass., and Jane de Winter (Fred Joutz) of Kensington, Md.; 10 grandchildren, Joshua Cirinna, Elizabeth Cirinna Mendez (Luis), Nathan Cirinna, Daniel Cirinna, Jaclyn Cirinna, Rachel Cirinna, Andre Joutz, Marguerite Joutz, Dmitri Joutz, and Ivan Joutz; four great-grandchildren, Angel, Josiah, Armani, and Sophia; and many nieces and nephews.

In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to the First Church Congregational of Boxford Long Range Maintenance Fund.

Pat will be greatly missed by everyone her life touched. We take comfort in her deep faith.

ARRANGEMENTS: Calling hours will be held on Thursday, June 20, from 2 to 4 p.m. and 6 to 8 p.m., at the Peterson O'Donnel Funeral Home, 167 Maple St., Danvers, Mass.

A celebration of her life will be held on Friday, June 21, at 11 a.m., at First Church Congregational, 4 Georgetown Road, Boxford, Mass.

Private burial will take place in West Hartford, Conn., on Saturday.