Editor's note: We at The Daily News were saddened to learn earlier this month that Arthur Allen died unexpectedly from a heart attack. Arthur was a frequent contributor to our editorial page and was well known to many in greater Newburyport. The following is a column written on his behalf by his daughter, Elissa.
My father, Arthur Allen, died at the age of 63 on Aug. 2. My dad was the embodiment of compassion, duty, style and bravery. He was the guy fighting for the rights of the victims; he was the man campaigning for a friend; he was a proud member of the Ancient and Honorable Artillery Company of Massachusetts; he was a humble member of the Byfield Protection Fire Company No. 1; he was an EMT, EMT trainer and swim instructor for underprivileged children; he was a promoter for the annual Firemen's Ball; he was an organ donor; he was the chairman of the Mass. Aeronautics Commission; he was president of his own business, Security Team; and he was the one who enjoyed doing magic tricks for kids. He was always ready to buy you a meal and even quicker to pick up the tab. He was a true friend to many, my greatest supporter and my mom's best friend. My dad was a great thinker who spoke provoking truths about our lives, towns, country and times. He often shared his thoughts with you in this column.
That is why I write for him today, to share with you his final lesson of what a life well lived looks like. My dad led by example, as his high school yearbook stated: Arthur Allen was destined to be a mentor, a teacher, a coach. However, my dad didn't need a classroom to teach his lessons: any sidewalk, restaurant, airport, or ultimately, funeral, would do. He was a collector of people and a fixer of troubles. I think it was his own painful childhood, being orphaned at 12, that made it possible for him to connect with injured people and drove him to find ways to alleviate their pain. He was living proof that a person could rise above their problems and make a positive difference in this world. He wanted to help others find their way to healing, too.
So you can imagine my dilemma. My father, a great teacher and influence in the lives of so many, had left the world unexpectedly. People would be calling, arriving and looking for direction. Someone had to capture in words the essence of a man who was larger than life. Who could step up and make sense out of this senseless loss. Who would comfort my mother, my sister, his sister, the people? I felt alone, overwhelmed, and in a dark place.
Then a funny thing happened.
Messages started pouring into our home from friends, families, neighbors and acquaintances. Stories of who my father was and how much he meant to so many were shared in person, by phone, by mail, and even through Facebook postings and poems. Food flowed from every nook and cranny. Pictures of holidays, vacations and events were shared. Children were playing in the yard with my father's dog. Friends and foes united in grief were hugging in the living room. I heard laughter coming from my parents' kitchen. I heard my mother laugh. Ready or not, the healing had begun. How was this possible?
It was my dad's extraordinary love of life, the love he shared with others, the love he instilled in me that was coming full circle home. I was not alone; we were not alone. He was right there with us in the words, deeds and memories shared by others. In the end, it was the positive energy my father sent out into the world that led his family through the dark days of his loss. It was his powerful last lesson for us.
On the behalf of my father, I want to invite each one of you to do something worthwhile and important. Whether your goal is big or small; for the benefit of hundreds or just one; be open, warm, curious, principled, and generous of spirit, and you too will leave this world better because you have lived. That is what my father did. That is what he wanted to teach us. Through his life's work, he left a picture of a life well lived.
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